{"id":7030,"date":"2017-05-29T04:00:14","date_gmt":"2017-05-29T04:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/equipmagazine.org\/?p=1813"},"modified":"2023-08-29T11:21:13","modified_gmt":"2023-08-29T17:21:13","slug":"christian-gossip-oxymoron","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/baonline.cog7engage.net\/christian-gossip-oxymoron\/","title":{"rendered":"Five Habits of Jesus-Followers Who Make “Christian Gossip” an Oxymoron"},"content":{"rendered":"
Gossip. It is to modern Christianity what speeding is to modern society. An infraction at worst. Not even a misdemeanor.\u00a0We know we’re not supposed to do it and will face consequences if caught, but we comfort ourselves with the reality that everyone does it. It’s convenient. And it’s not as bad as other sins like adultery or theft. Right…?<\/p>\n
Deep down in our hearts, we know our logic is flawed.<\/p>\n
Scripture is clear on the subject. Don’t do it. But, we do.<\/p>\n
From a young age, at least in my life, gossip became a habit.<\/p>\n
For those of us who love Christ and desire to follow Him in every aspect of our lives, “infractions” like gossip should make us entirely uncomfortable. We should squirm when we hear it and become convicted when we do it. Because we are Christ’s representatives here on Earth. We’ve been re-created by Him to lead<\/a> those who don’t know Him to encounter Him. Gossip gets in the way of that.<\/p>\n Authentic Jesus-followers don’t settle by allowing\u00a0any<\/em> infraction to remain commonplace in their lives. They recognize the call on their lives to be\u00a0reflections of their King to their circles of influence. So, they buckle down in prayer and, empowered\u00a0by the Holy Spirit, they develop new, better habits to rid their lives of gossip. They commit to making “Christian gossip” what it should be – an oxymoron.<\/p>\n In\u00a0Christian Gossip: 5 Common Disguises of What Should be an Oxymoron<\/em><\/a>, I called attention to our sin nature\u2019s attempts to justify our sin of gossip by calling it something more palatable. We disguise gossip as \u201cventing\u201d, \u201cpraise\u201d, \u201cconcern\u201d, \u201cclarification\u201d, or \u201cdefense\u201d in an attempt to make ourselves feel better about speaking poorly of others. These disguises, of course, don\u2019t fool God and don\u2019t further His Kingdom. By recognizing these gossip disguises, Christians can be on guard, preventing these disguises from having a place in our conversations.<\/p>\n Romans 3:23-24 makes our need for the good news of Jesus Christ abundantly clear:<\/p>\n For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, being justified as a gift by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n All<\/strong>\u00a0of us are sinners so\u00a0all<\/strong>\u00a0of us need Christ so that we may\u00a0turn away from our lives enslaved to sin and live as His new creations, holy as He is. While it is harmful to our sanctification to cling to the shame and guilt of our previous sins, it is necessary to remember our former sinful state in order to remain humbly grateful for our salvation. Remembering that our salvation is an unmerited gift destroys our pride, which is usually the culprit motivating our gossip. This prevents us from giving into gossip because it humbles us each day, making us thankful for the freedom we now have from sin and the inevitable pain it causes. Further, daily remembering our gift of salvation compels us to offer that same gift to others. Simply put, gospel sharing and gossip sharing are counterproductive; the two cannot co-exist. Thus, a daily reminder of our personal need for our Savior will keep us gracious in the way we speak of others.<\/p>\n [bctt tweet=”Gospel sharing & gossip sharing are counterproductive. – Caitlin Meadows”]<\/p>\n Philippians 2:3-4 gives practical application for living out the gospel, instructing Christians to,<\/p>\n Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n When we are thinking more highly of others than ourselves, we are not going to speak harmfully of them. Even in candid moments when we are sure the subject of our potential gossip will never hear of it, we will have the desire to protect them from the pain that our words could cause. Thus, we choose to only speak well of them, as we would desire they only speak well of us.<\/p>\n [bctt tweet=”When we think more highly of others than self, we won’t gossip about them. – Caitlin Meadows”]<\/p>\n Therefore, encourage one another and build up one another.\u201d \u2013 1 Thessalonians 5:11a<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Throughout the Bible, God reminds us to be unified in our faith as we encourage one another. He purposely designed us to need one another. When I use my words to speak well of my sister in Christ, it is unlikely that she is going to take offense and speak negatively of me. Kindness is contagious.<\/p>\n Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness.\u201d \u2013 Galatians 6:1a<\/p><\/blockquote>\n To eliminate the\u00a0sin of gossip from our lives, accountability is necessary. Just like with any bad habit, the tendency\u00a0to continue it will arise. At these times, we are to\u00a0lovingly<\/em>\u00a0remind each other that gossip is not welcome in our circles. Through mutual encouragement and accountability, gossip will be kept where it belongs \u2013 out.<\/p>\n If I then, the Lord and the Teacher, washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another\u2019s feet. For I gave you an example that you also should do as I did to you.\u201d \u2013 John 13:14-15<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Who has time to be tempted by gossip when they\u2019re busy following Christ\u2019s example of selflessly serving others? When we\u2019re \u201cdevoted to one another in brotherly love\u201d<\/em>\u00a0as Paul speaks of in Romans 12:10, we don\u2019t have it in our hearts to speak negatively of others because we\u2019re too filled with love and honor for those who would otherwise be the subjects of our gossip. Instead of participating in idle conversation, the Jesus-follower who makes “Christian gossip” an oxymoron\u00a0spends time serving others.<\/p>\n These are five simple biblical principles that all point in the same direction – toward our Savior King. When these principles become our habits – our way of life, we accomplish more than a gossip free life. We accomplish gospel living and get to watch in grateful wonder as the Lord leads others to Himself through us. There is no better\u00a0reason to make “Christian gossip” an oxymoron in your life than this!<\/p>\n Are you a Jesus-follower committed to making “Christian\u00a0gossip” an oxymoron in your life? Do you desire to become the leader Christ has re-created you to be? Download\u00a0Artios Christian College’s free guide on\u00a0Discovering\u00a0Your Leadership Strengths<\/em><\/a>.<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Gossip. It is to modern Christianity what speeding is to modern society. An infraction at worst. Not even a misdemeanor.\u00a0We know we’re not supposed to do it and will face consequences if caught, but we comfort ourselves with the reality that everyone does it. It’s convenient. And it’s not as bad as other sins like […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":244,"featured_media":5331,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"sync_status":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","castos_file_data":"","podmotor_file_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[560,70],"tags":[99,236,563,256,562],"yoast_head":"\nHere are 5 habits of Jesus-followers\u00a0who make the term “Christian gossip” an oxymoron:<\/h3>\n
1. Jesus-followers recognize gossip\u2019s disguises.<\/h3>\n
2. Jesus-followers remember their need for the gospel every day.<\/h3>\n
3. Jesus-followers consider others better than themselves.<\/h3>\n
4. Jesus-followers provide each other with encouragement and\u00a0accountability.<\/h3>\n
5. Jesus-followers serve others.<\/h3>\n
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